Monday, November 2, 2009

what do men want?

I was having a talk with my girlfriend yesterday and I was asking her how her friends are doing…the conversation goy interesting when I realised that a lot of them don’t have boyfriends and are looking, a few questions have been on my mind since then:

What does a guy look for in a relationship?
What does a woman have to do to make sure that the guy calls her the next day?
Why is it that we treat the girls that like us and are available like crap and chase after the ones that treat us like crap?

In my thinking, I can summaries all this into one word…AVAILABILITY.

It makes sense because as men we a programmed to be hunters and we are always up for a challenge; this permeates into every single area of a man’s life. Look at sport for example, it’s all about challenge, in fact sport is based on war (get into the enemies territory and conquer, by scoring a goal or something.),

Now I will attempt to answer my questions:

What does a guy look for in a relationship?

We look for challenge, the only way for a man to be interested in a woman is for her not to be easily available to him, and we all know the story of the girl who is one of the boys. She becomes that because she is always around and eventually we get tired of treating her like a girl if she is doing everything that a boy does…then she becomes one of us.

What does a woman have to do to make sure that the guy calls her the next day?

The easiest way for this to happen is that you don’t give and reveal everything about yourself immediately, make him work for everything…(work on the 3:1 ratio, I’ll explain this in later blogs.)

Why is it that we treat the girls that like us and are available like crap and chase after the ones that treat us like crap?

It’s easy, it’s because we can’t “have” them. If a girl really likes a guy and comes onto him, chances are he will run the other direction very quickly. Always remember this a woman chooses a man, BUT the man must show that he is worthy of being chosen (i.e. he must best the best option in ALL departments, whatever you criteria are.).

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